May 10, 2021

An Emoji is worth a thousand words

Understanding how and when to use emojis is clutch for dating. They are an indispensable part of effective flirting and can help bridge the technology gap, making you seem more personable and like a better writer.


Take the following exchange for example:


You: I’ve really been enjoying getting to know you on here, I’d love to take you out sometime?

Them: yeah, that sounds great


That’s super ambiguous. It’s hard to gauge without punctuation or emojis what they actually think about going out with you. Now let’s change it a little:


You: I’ve really been enjoying getting to know you on here, I’d love to take you out sometime?

Them: yeah, that sounds great 😂


This one, while devastating, is clear: they think the idea of going out with you is a joke in some way. The reason they think it’s a joke is a mystery - maybe they actually don’t want to go out with you, maybe you live too far away, or maybe they’re being cautious in a pandemic. OR maybe they think you’re asking them as a joke and are trying to play along in order to avoid embarrassment. You’re not necessarily out of luck here, but it is obvious that they think the idea of THIS date with you (but possibly not all dates) is a joke. Here’s one more variation:


You: I’ve really been enjoying getting to know you on here, I’d love to take you out sometime?

Them: yeah, that sounds great 😊


This clearly conveys that they want to go out with you and that you asking has made them very happy. This is the ideal situation.


The conclusion is obvious: despite the text being exactly the same in all three examples, the simple addition or change in emoji can dramatically alter the tone of the message, and can be the deciding factor between ambiguity, disappointment, and over-the-moon excited.


Bottom line: Use emojis. Add them to Keys messages whenever possible.


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